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​Getting Off “Go” With Self-Care

It's not just you. Getting started with self-care is surprisingly difficult. There can be such inertia around self-care. Resistance, inside and out. Why is this? We all know self-care is important As we grow into our strengths, stepping into roles with more impact, opportunity and...

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​Mind the Gate: A simple way to name and claim the life you long for

Draw a circle. Inside your circle, put everything you want to experience: descriptive words and feelings that you would like to fill your days and years. Outside your circle, put descriptive words and feelings you wish to AVOID. The circle itself—the line you drew—becomes the boundary between...

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​Helping Another with Anxiety

This was to be an article on ways to support another who suffers from anxiety. I expected to share tips like: Create psychological safety. (Google this.) Don't argue/reason--it'll make it worse. (Read You Can’t Think Your Way Out of Anxiety - How to Wrestle Your Lizard Brain) Distract...

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​Living in the Light: How to communicate your boundaries around self-care

Think of boundaries as the line you draw around what is yours and what is not yours. Your self-care needs are yours: your right AND your responsibility. When the line we draw around our needs is blurry, we blame others for our lack of self care; we put others’ needs before our own; and, we don’t...

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​Drawing the Line: How I stopped being indispensable and feeling resentful

God I envy well-boundaried people. Does it come easy for them? Naturally? I am always building my boundaries, brick by brick, uphill. Fighting for every inch. Scurrying around with a trowel, inspecting, correcting. I look away for a minute and they crumble. It's surprising how many experiences...

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Why Will Won’t Work

How to make this fiery force work FOR, not AGAINST, you That fierce engine in the pit of your belly—Will—can do a lot. Will gets you up to feed the children after a stormy, sleepless night. Will gets you through that last semester, when the jumble of terms and grades and credits seems...

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5 Tips for Taming Anxiety - Cuz you can’t THINK your way out of anxiety

In our recent blog, “You Can’t Think Your Way Out of Anxiety - How to Wrestle Your Lizard” we established that the limbic brain (a.k.a. Lizard Brain*) does not respond to language: self-talk, affirmations, intentions, logic, or reason. In other words, you cannot think your way out of...

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​You Can’t Think Your Way Out of Anxiety - How to Wrestle Your Lizard Brain

Imagine, nestled in a safe nook deep inside your brain, there lies a pair of lizards*. This region—technically called the Amygdala—is the seat of your emotional response. Possessing the neurological complexity of a lizard’s brain, Amygdalae are charged with filtering all incoming information...

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A Day in My (Self-Care) Life

My hungry cat woke me at 5:40 a.m. Rather than engage in a battle I know I won't win, I give in to his purrs and soft-pawed prompts and allow my heart to fill with gratitude for the privilege of opening my eyes on another new day. I put my feet on the floor and engage my body and mind in...

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​10 Surprises in Developing a Self-Care Habit

I have definitely shifted mindset around self-care. I no longer see it as a treat or indulgence. It is now a way of life. Here is what surprised me: How quickly it becomes a mindset. The more I do it, the less I think about it. I no longer think “self-care.” I think “meeting...

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